How to Give Your First Hand Job

Whenever they tell you “Give the guy a hand!”, yes, they usually mean “Give that man a hand job!”  Because, well, most men are just not going to turn down a hand job when it’s offered by a pretty woman.  That said, there is a way to do it that meets expectations…AND a way to make your first hand job really good and out of this world!  In considering how to give your first hand job, first decide if this is just a hand job or a combination of a blowjob, hand job and any number of other kinky things to do to a man.  Of course, using your lips and mouth will increase the enjoyment of a hand job by 300 percent.  (Do we really need statistics on that?)

But not every woman actually wants to combine a hand job and a blowjob.  She might not be ready for oral sex, or may not even trust the guy enough to go down on him.  If you feel the same way and are only willing to give a guy a hand job, then stick to your principles and don’t let him pressure you to move faster than you’d like.  Besides, if you know how to give a really good hand job, he won’t even miss the blowjob.  He’ll be grateful.  Obviously, you want to start by having a comfortable environment, such as a bedroom or another isolated area where you both can relax on a flat surface.  While rushed and standing hand jobs

The Worst Hand Job Ever

Before we discuss how how to give your first hand job let’s talk about the WORST ideas on giving an HJ and how to generally turn a man off of hand jobs forever.  Women who simply yank a dick back and forth, up or down, or in and out are not putting much imagination into the act.  Although a man can ejaculate from squeezing and stroking, this makes for a fairly weak orgasm.  Besides, if you don’t know how to stroke it dry (and most women don’t, because even the man himself barely knows the perfect way to dry-stroke) you’re going to chafe his penis and that is an unpleasant and Indian burn-like feeling.

You can touch his penis dry, and you may become really excited at the idea of holding a dick in your hand for the first time.  But dry-handling is just good for the first few moments.  Eventually, you want to turn the mechanical experience into something artsy and erotic.  So here we grow…er, here we go.

How to Give Your First Hand Job

There is such a thing as hand foreplay.  It’s about touching other places around the penis, such as his thighs, the area around his crotch, and massaging the shaft under his pants.  Kissing him and touching other areas of his body like his arm, leg, chest or stomach is also a great way to get him “into” the hand job, make him crave more intimacy.

When he’s excited not only will his body react and his voice change, but his penis will get firmer and with a tighter erection.  Take your time in taking his penis out, playing with it still in his underwear.  Since this process is a bit more aesthetic than mechanical, don’t worry about stroking or squeezing.  Just take hold of it gently and slowly caress it.  Really good hand jobs take a long time and the foreplay itself can last up to ten minutes before he really can’t take the suspense anymore.

Wetter is Better

When learning how to give a hand job for the first time, definitely use some lube to help you out While it is possible to give a man a good dry hand job if you know what you’re doing, it’s simply going to be much more intense if your hands are wet.  You can use a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly, a well known brand name lubricant, or an oil based lubricant meant for massages like the Adam and Eve brand.  In choosing between water and oil-based lubricants, remember that water is lighter, while oil is heavier; however, most people avoid oil based lubricants if they’re using condoms because of a security risk.  With a wet handjob, this is not an issue.  You also have the choice of silicone lube. Click here to check out our article on the best lubes to use!

Using All the Available Tools

Learning how to give your first hand job involves taking stock of the man’s tools as well as your own.  You have not one but two hands—both of which can and should be used for pleasuring him.  Vary your grip by using both hands and get creative about it.  For example, you can jerk him off with one hand, then switch to the other, then combine both of them.  Focus on more than one pleasure point on the penis, such as the shaft and the head.  You can vary the rhythm too, with fast or slow strokes or even a different motion; one going upwards and downwards and the other hand in a soft twisting motion.

The head of the penis, particularly the very top, is the most sensitive part and has the most nerve endings.  Focus attention by making a virtual O-shaped cock ring out of your own index finger and thumb.  Stimulate the top as well as the frenulum, which is the soft bit of skin under the penis head, which joins the shaft on the underside.  Rub these sensitive areas with LIGHT pressure.  When you use lubricant you can rub faster and harder, as it gets rid of that chaffing and drying feeling.

Vibrators Rock!

Learning how to give your first hand job? Vibrators aren't always used, but let me tell you they sure do helpWhen learning how to give your first hand job, don’t underestimate the power of the vibrator on a man’s penis.  If your man is skeptical as to their effectiveness (thinking it’s a woman’s toy) then you are going to blow his mind and his wad.  Vibrators such as the Hitachi Magic Wand with Hammer head attachment let you vibrate the unit against his erection with a natural fitting sleeve.  It’s like an out of control Fleshlight pummeling, and its sure to get him off in record time so use cautiously when the time is right.  Vibrators like the can also be used to stimulate his testicles, so as long as you keep the application soft and the contact very light and don’t attack the testes inside.  The Vibrating Ring is another type of hand job vibrator that can enhance orgasm because of a combination of tightness and movement.

When in doubt, always go soft.  Too many eager women make the mistake of pounding or yanking the penis around, when it’s actually better to slow it down and focus on a slow build up of fiery ejaculate.  If the hand job is good he will thank you…in the most explosive (and messy) of ways so prepare for lift off, take cover, and enjoy!

Thanks for reading our article and we hope you learned how to give your first hand job!